Let go of ‘good’ ‘bad’ ‘right’ ‘wrong’ ‘improvement’ ‘progression’ —> Its important to know that these terms are made up from fixed programming. Have you ever asked yourself what these terms mean to you + how you value yourself based upon what is considered good, bad, right, wrong, improvement, progression?
Many of us have fixed/dominant ways of viewing the world + most of this programming occurs before the age of 7. Many of our behaviours, coping mechanisms e.t.c. are modelled off our parents.
Identify all of your programming that you have unknowingly made part of your identity + has skewed the lens in which you view yourself, others and the world around you.
Pay particular attention to the lens of suffering, how you view the world when you are struggling.
Then take a step back, find a space, realise you are an empty vessel + that 99% of the universe is empty space. There is no linear timeline. Use your breath as your guide from the inside out, into physical space, spiritual body….
In this moment, do not attach to the past, future, right now in this split second, this moment, you have everything you need.
From this space, this spaciousness within the empty vessel, we have identified all of of our programming such that by doing so we no longer identify with it. From this space, we realise we have a choice. We can choose the lens in which we see the world.
Can we view the world from the lens of beauty + recognise multiple realities + multiple versions of self are occurring/taking place simultaneously.
Yesterday there was a version of me that ate food.
There were two versions of me that was eating food:
1. There was the version of me that was run by programming, ‘good’’bad’’right’’wrong’ e.t.c. + viewing the world through the lens of suffering. In this lens I am viewing food as right wrong good bad failure setback sucks.
This version of me was operating out of constructed beliefs/should do’s ought to’s: where eating less then 4 hours apart was bad, where eating more then 2 tablespoons of tahini or banana equated to overeating and that I screwed up and had to refresh my ‘good behaviour record tomorrow’ so that I could once again live only by my self-imposed standards of what makes me worthy. In this space/lens there is no living, there is only suffering because the gap between my actual self and my imagined/perfectionistic self/should be self is wide + conflict arises, self sabotage, never enough e.t.c. There is nothing wrong with having inspired action/intent and a vision of the highest version of yourself but pay close attention to the intention that is driving these actions. In this space, whether we believe it our not, but we are essentially saying each day must look the same - same food, same timing, same routine, same idea + level of achievement in order to be worthy. This is crazy.
In Tony Robbins words, ‘to be your most authentic self is to remain spontaneous. Finding ecstasy in every moment. Asking yourself each day, who am I today, how will I give to the world today, How will I give to myself today, what value can I provide, what do I like e.t.c.- we remain dynamic, fluid, alive, inspired and closest to what is sacred for us’. This allows for a rich life, free of programming because you are not fixed to any one identity, you are constantly refreshing your sense of self.
2. There was the version of me that was operating from a point of expansion. Seeing life, myself and the world through the lens of beauty, by practicing gratitude + appreciation for what is. By first surrendering and then accepting.
Surrendering: is the fish finding the current. Every human has a current of their own, when we find this, we step/surrender into flow.
Acceptance: once we have found of flow and a gliding down stream, we will come across a rock, a piece of driftwood, get caught in the river bank. This is not a setback/start again. Instead, if we can accept what is in the moment. Meet it with love, compassion, understanding and learning then we can loosen the reigns this struggle has on us and view it through the lens of beauty so we do not remain attached/aligned to it as a setback, instead if we can get comfortable with whatever arises, we can effortlessly pass through and continue in the flow.
Ask yourself… if you were aligned with your vision, your truth and were in flow and then one day believed that you had overate (by your standards) what creates less conflict; the lens of suffering ‘I stuffed up’ ‘I haven’t improved’ ‘I am horrible’ ‘why me’ ‘I feel stuck’, ‘that was bad, wrong, stupid’ ‘I will start again tomorrow’ so much as to continue this self-sabotage for the rest of the day, and instead of accepting what is so that you can surrender back into the current of life, you instead become the salmon, swimming upstream, against the current, until you are depleted, thinking you have to go back to where you started to start again.
Or do you meet yourself and your pain hand in hand, like a small child, with love, compassion, forgiveness, acknowledgement, insight, learning, saying I am here, I see you, I understand. By accepting what is, in its realness, we are building trust within self, that we will be here for ourselves no matter what, we will accept ourselves in our realness, in our wholeness and not shun any part of ourselves that our programming sees as unworthy. By accepting ourself in our wholeness, we can fall forward, feel gratitude for what is and fall forward, back into flow.
We are finding gratitude in this space, ‘wow, how grateful am I to even have this choice in the first place, I can chose what to eat, to have access to this amazing food, how grateful am I to be able to nourish my body, how grateful am I to have people around me that understand me, how grateful am I for everything in myself, how grateful am I to even be having this has a problem in the first place…’. When we can shift the lens, recognise we have a choice.
When you limit yourself by saying ‘I can’t I can’t I can’t’, why can’t you? This is still programming. Self-sabotage of self and self sabotage coming from others. When you believe you can’t, you are reinforcing this belief that you can’t.
What is the intention driving your actions? Are they from beauty or avoidance of suffering. When I was stuck in victim mentality my intentions were doing anything in my power to avoid suffering rather then to find beauty in every moment. I would leave the house to avoid suffering, I would call a friend to avoid suffering, I would distract myself by a means of avoiding suffering, I would exercise as a means of making up for suffering….. Instead I can leave the house to experience the worlds beauty, I can call a friend because I care and out of love, I exercise to love my body, feel endorphins, I read as a way of filling my mind with beauty and knowledge. What an amazing, empowering, fulfilling space to be operating from