I am curious,
Why do we need to be complimented on our bodies to be deemed worthy?
Are our bodies not already incredible??!!
Are our bodies not incredible through our ability to experience the subtleties of sensation?
Through our ability to move and exercise?
Through our ability to hold ourselves, hold another?
To transfer energy from and to another human being!
Are our bodies not enough without a gap between our thighs, a butt that catches the eyes, a stomach that doesn't bloat, skin that is flawless?
Are our bodies not enough to have a stomach + gut that assimilates nutrients + feeds life into our being without having abs?!
Are our physical features not enough to be able to witness the beauty of life, to see ourselves, as we are?
Are our bodies only enough when we internalize societal beauty standards + dedicate a large portion of mental energy/time trying to attain this?!
Are our bodies not enough as they are?
I would like to think they are.
I would like to think I can love my body, celebrate it, its beauty, its strength, its miracle nature without needing another to validate this.
Our bodies are AMAZING! We don't need external validation to realize that. Look how we are created!
Instead of striving to receive external validation, let us tune in with our bodies to embrace life + reconnect with our bodies innate intelligence.
Move in a way you desire to move,
Love in a way you desire to love,
Touch in a way you desire to touch,
Receive in a way you are open to receiving,
Feel, connect, deepen that bond, hold space and be in your entirety.
Part of living is journeying back to our wholeness.
Choose to love that journey <3
Hey beautiful people,
In this video I share some of my top tips to ace a job interview;
A short summary:
1. Basics: -
- Eye contact
- Body language
- Taking a moment to think before you respond
- Clear and engaging communication
2. Preparation - If you are able to;
- Visit the store or flagship where you are applying.
- Familiarise yourself with the store layout, the products, uniform, new developments e.t.c.
- Mystery shop: Ask the shop assistant some questions e.g. 'What is the difference between.?.' 'Can you please tell me about this product and the benefits it has...?' 'Can you please recommend...?'
***This is so when they ask you have you visited our stores before? You can say, 'Yes, after I applied I went in and visited the store, looked around and such and such helped me in these areas' e.t.c.
- KEY POINT** Go to Dr. John Demartin's website and fill out the values determination: Collect key examples of where you demonstrate these values in different areas of your life. https://drdemartini.com/value_determi...
- Go onto the company website and familiarise yourself with the company values, mission or vision statement and relate them to your own values vice versa.
- Collect some facts about the company 'founded in e.t.c' in '64 diff countries e.t.c. 'globally run by e.t.c.'
- Prepare a few questions as they will more then likely ask you, 'Do you have any questions for us?'. It can be related to your specific job title e.g. 'What specific skill sets or abilities are you looking for to fulfil this job title?' Or it could be to do with the company.
- Ask about something you are genuinely interested about. Its always good to have one or two. I read somewhere that if you don't have questions then that is an issue.
So I was just watching an interview with Mama Gena, author of PUSSY: a reclamation and she shared that every time she holds a meeting or connects with her loved ones they start off the conversation with a BOAST, a GRATITUDE and a HOPE. When I heard this, I loved it straight away. While I already practice my daily gratitudes, write down my values & the 7 strategic action steps... I definitely had not been including a 'boast' or a 'hope'.
Many of us have been conditioned to shy away from recognising our accomplishments & success (whatever that looks like for you). But in the midst of endless creations and outpouring of our energy into multiple sources + activities, it is SO important to stop, express love to ourselves + share a recent win or HELL YEAAAH with a loved one, and encourage the same from them. I did this practice with my mum this morning & I encourage you all to do the same.
I thought I would share my 3 here :)
I boast that I have taken small steps every day this week to branch out with my food & acknowledged my fears but taken action anyway - and I am responsible for this! :)
I am grateful for having a beautiful relationship with my mum, loving my work & that I am willing to embody the love and energy I wish to see in the world. I am grateful for everything I attract as a result of how I show up.
My hope is that everyone, no matter their circumstances take the time to reflect on their potential, recognise their deeper purpose and self worth and be open to connecting with others in a way that is deeply nourishing so that humanity can come together to continually raise the current world consciousness & connect with pure source <3
What are yours?
I wanted to share a simple insight that came up for me this morning... it was one of those moments where you recognise you have 'known' a concept intellectually but it remains 'knowledge' until it finally clicks and integrates.
This morning I did a Mas Sajady medi healing and it was exploring both the dark realms and light realms and how one of the big misconceptions is about moving away from the dark into the light. When actually as we become more spiritual advanced, our journey teaches us how to master both realms.
Anyways, it made me think about the concept of separation as it relates to an issue in my life, specifically around nutrition and nourishment. Having struggled with an eating disorder for many years this concept of separation was very embedded in my mindset, 'good foods' 'bad foods', 'good day: perfect eating' 'I am a good person: perfect eating', 'I am a bad person: less then perfect eating'. The actual content of what made up the good and bad was quite irrational, but it didn't matter, what mattered was that I was viewing nourishment, and health through a lens of separation, judgement and lack of acceptance.
So, until we cease to view the world, ourselves and our experiences through the lens of separation, 'good/bad', 'right/wrong', the universe will continuously present us with experiences/patterns where we can either continue to choose separation OR we can choose to learn the lesson and instead choose radical acceptance. I realised this, this morning when I had too many home made protein balls and it triggered mental looping and disordered mindset around food :P & all of a sudden it was 'I am bad', 'Today is no longer a good day', 'That food was bad'. e.t.c.
When we decide to choose Radical acceptance and love over judgement and ridicule, over time it will cease to trigger these behaviours and self-sabotage. When we recognise there is no 'good' 'bad 'right 'wrong'... there is only a CHOICE! All we have to ask ourselves in those moments is, 'Is this choice TRUE for me?' 'Is this choice in ALIGNMENT with my values and desires?' Then our heart will show us the answer rather then the analytical mind.
Hey beautiful person...
I wanted to write this message from my heart to yours, from my highest self to your highest self...
You are so worthy of love, first and foremost from your self; always. You are worthy of love from all sources in all directions, at all times, in all states, in all dimensions, unconditionally; all-ways.
When things might seem tough, its okay... its okay to allow space to breathe. Its okay to allow space to be. Its okay not to know. Its okay just to sit and allow whatever feelings arise, to arise.
Allow yourself permission to experience all that you are in your wholeness, welcoming all emotions and feelings, including the discomfort. Lean into the discomfort.
In these times, if you feel like 'distracting' yourself to dissociate from the truth of who you are in the present moment, realise that those distractions may be taking away from the beauty of the lesson, the beauty of growth, the beauty of a download. Within the silence, new insights arise. Face the space as you continue to evolve into the divine sovereign being that you are. It is within this space that your love for yourself deepens.
Just like when you loved ones are struggling and ask you to hold space and love for them, you too can hold that space for your self and be there for yourself. In those times of need, listening in non-judgement and radical acceptance of whatever arises, just like you would for those you love unconditionally. Make the commitment to be there for yourself. Make the commitment to love yourself, unconditionally, no matter what.
In these times, call upon the purest form of guidance, the heart, the universe, pure source. Remember, when you welcome all that you are, spaciousness provides and discomfort subsides.
Lastly, here is a technique that will assist in reconnecting you with your heart to allow higher guidance to flow through you...
Imagine there is a spiral staircase going down from the middle of your brain to the middle of your chest.
Go down the stairs. Step off the stairs and slowly turn to your left. There is a door there that goes into your heart.
Open the door and step inside your heart; remember to close the door behind you.
For a moment, see, sense and feel the love, compassion, beauty and acceptance emanating from your heart.
Feel the power of your heart. Feel appreciation for all that your heart has guided you to do.
Allow this feeling to permeate through the entirety of your body.
Be here now, in this all-encompassing feeling of the love frequency. Send love deep within your self.
Feel the love spiralling from the top of your head, down your throat, through the chest and the heart, sternum and solar plexus, circulating down the spine, the ribs, showering your gut with love, the genital's, your thighs, knees, calves and ankles, and gliding through each of your toes, then spiralling up and down your body, radiating from within.
Hold yourself in this space and remember the love that you are. Then move your attention to your breath.
So yesterday I made the choice to cancel my flight to Bali....
I followed my heart and gut and I have a lot of mixed emotions and confusion but I choose to surrender and allow these emotions to rise so that I can feel into the lesson I learnt by making this choice.
It was about making the decision to listen to my heart. I don't believe there is a 'wrong' or 'right' choice, once we have made our choice, it is our responsibility to surrender and trust the unfolding of a new direction.
Our environment isn't the only factor that dictates our experience. There is no saying that Bali, versus Sydney versus America promises a certain type of experience. What is our intention? How do we as individuals choose to move forward on our path and create a life that is aligned with who we truly are, a life that is aligned with our deepest desires... a life that is lead from the heart, not only from the mind, from love not fear. A life that is lived with presence, through connecting the head, heart and gut and through this alignment of self, guidance from our higher self, the universe, pure source channels through us. This is what allows for synchronicities and new opportunities so that we can grow and evolve, becoming more and more ourself.
The lesson I learnt is this; I said yes, when I meant no. This isn't the first time. Part of this is that I get over-joy, over-excited, coupled with a fear of missing out and a desire to please my loved ones and make them happy. Its a beautiful thing when we can bring joy into others lives, but we still need to ask ourselves the question, 'Is the choice I am making aligned with my desires? Who am I making this choice for?'. What isn't is alignment is when our heart is telling us something different then what our mind is saying, and we neglect this. This is when we find ourselves in sticky situations later on down the track, affecting not only my self, but my loved ones involved in the situation. Ironically, what I feared of initially ends up happening anyway, letting someone down, not pleasing them and not trusting my truth.
So, yesterday as I was sitting in my bedroom, I was sitting there distracting myself, snacking... exercising... youtube watching... and each moment I would stop I would find myself a little more anxious, a little more distraught, a little more mis-aligned. A voice said, 'Are you trusting your heart?'... inside I knew I wasn't but my mind interrupted and said, 'Never mind, you have to go, you don't have a choice'. Sometimes these lessons arise in uncomfortable ways but very rarely are lessons learnt in comfortable ways.
The idea of going to Bali took me into the mindset of viewing 16 days as an opportunity...but what if I looked at 16 days in Sydney as an opportunity, what if I looked at each day as an opportunity, every moment as an opportunity. So often we look for 'reasons', 'people', 'circumstances', 'trips', e.t.c. as the opportunity and many people sit around not tapping into their full potential until an external source arises. I realised that we are the opportunity, the opportunity is a materialisation of who we are within, which then radiates out. If we make a conscious choice to find ourselves in Radical alignment, whatever that looks like for us as individuals, each and every day, then we are the opportunity and we are open to receiving and channelling the divine so that every moment is an opportunity to tap into our highest self, highest frequency, highest vibration.
So two lessons I learnt from this;
1. Honour your truth
2. We are the opportunity, here right now, in this moment is the opportunity to come into radical alignment, and tap into our highest self.
What would happen if we surrendered to the divine in every moment? experience the abundance around us? the opportunity within each moment?
"There are no wrong turns, only unexpected paths".
1. Your beliefs
2. Your attitude
3. Your thoughts
4. Your perspective
5. How honest you are
6. Who your friends are
7. What books you read
8. How often you exercise
9. The type of food you eat
10. How many risks you take
11. How you interpret situations
12. How kind you are to others
13. How kind you are to yourself
14. How often you say 'I love you'
15. How often you say 'Thank you'
16. How you express your feelings
17. Whether or not you ask for help
18. How often you practice gratitude
19. How many times you smile today
20. The amount of effort you put forth
21. How you spend/invest your money
22. How much time you spend worrying
23. How often you think about your past
24. Whether or not you judge other people
25. Whether or not you try again after a setback
26. How much you appreciate the things you have
27. Whether or not you choose to raise your vibration
28. Whether or not you choose to transform your frequency
My personal experience;
I spent the last week in Waiheke Island, New Zealand, in a magical oasis, surrounded by lush greenery, vast ocean and vineyards. However, while my external natural environment could be equated to bliss, I stepped into a relational dynamic that brought up feelings of separation.
Below I share my journal entry that dives into the importance of taking control of managing your internal environment, cleaning it out and raising your vibration, so that your internal environment shapes your external environment.
"....Sometimes you find yourself in an external environment that you would consider your ideal... surrounded in beautiful nature, in the sunshine, mountains, walking... absolute bliss.
This past week I was so looking forward to coming here to see my Dad and have a beautiful relax. I arrived about two days ago and I was stunted, it was not what I had imagined. Rather, I stepped into a dynamic that felt highly uncomfortable, caused a lot of separation, awkwardness and misalignment with someone there.
Yes, there has been a history of separation, though nothing is said or done, its an energetic blockage between us. The first two days I really let it get to me, it shaped the lens in which I viewed this trip and furthermore, shaped the lens in which I viewed the world and my place in it. I took it personally and was deeply hurt. The blockage between us made me want to separate and distance myself, and it made me want to escape this environment, asking myself, 'Why the fuck am I here?'.
When I recognised how these feelings, I had chose to take on had started to transform my biochemistry in a way that was not from a loving, compassionate and accepting place, I made the choice, 'I don't want to be feeling like this', 'I don't want to be experiencing negative charges towards this person', 'I don't want to be feeling in energetic bondage and like I can't express my true authentic self'.
Furthermore, I don't want to contribute to the other person feeling the same way, I want them to be able to feel safe and free to express themselves, just as much as I want to.
In this moment, I have the power to transform, moment to moment. I have the power to transform and manage my internal world and clean it out, so it is no longer heavy, in pain, slumped, sad and drained.
Okay, so I have a few options,
1. Choose to remain stagnate and in separation.
2. Raise my vibration and take it as an opportunity for expansion so that I was no longer matching the frequency I was attracting.
3. Have a conversation with that person and express to them how I felt.
Fast-track forward; I picked the option I knew I could control, the option that would empower me, grow me and propel me forward. I made the conscious choice, conscious in the sense that I became aware of the patterns that had been formed and chose to delete the cycle of reactivity, separation and isolation from the subconscious/unconscious which had been reinforced over years.
I chose to shed, open and expand into a different vibration, one that allowed for a safe space to be created for the both of us, creating a presence that is allowing both of us to feel comfortable and safe.
So I made this promise to myself, and in the morning, energetically everything has shifted. Energetically she responded and the blockage was lifted to discover a new found freedom, relaxed space and surrendering to what is. The key here is that this was an internal choice, a choice I made to manage and shift my internal space, not the control and 'fix' my external space or try to change the other. It was a choice that came from the heart, from spirit, not from the head.
Magically, as we all know, 'Shape your internal world, shape your external world'.
This choice is one we can all make in any moment, in all moments, by tapping into the highest vibration and expression of ourselves possible. That is, one of love, compassion, openness, safety, freedom, beauty, gratitude, joy, play and acceptance. "
Later that week I looked up an energy update for that period which was very telling and had a little chuckle to myself :)
"We have choices — to either remain stagnant in the duality of lower frequencies, or make decisions that support our universal evolution, even if it means choosing a challenge or jumping into the vast unknown."
"The Square/90 angle reflects friction and tension. From an evolutionary viewpoint, this a place in our awareness where we are forced to make changes in our lives based on the friction and tension we are experiencing."
"The energy of Thursday’s Full Moon and this current lunar cycle are deeply connected our process of de-conditioning and learning to see ourselves in a new way."
"We slowly begin this transition from separation to real integration, we are asked many questions that have never been asked before."
Sunday 11th December
Breathing slowly and deeply, a warmth resides, the energy flows through my body… tightness dissolves, my gaze rests on the beauty surrounding me… What would I see with no labels… what would I see if reality as we know it was absent of constructs, definitions, ‘boxes’ of collected meaning over years of associations.
What if I was to see everything again for the first time? Ah, its an interesting thought…what if we saw from the heart… what would the world be like if we changed our lens…. such a shift in lens might seem to be ‘wrong’, ‘misunderstood’, ‘inappropriate'. If we take the responsibility to play our part, clean the heart, release negative charges, cultivate compassion, unconditional love, radical acceptance and trust, we become this beautiful, wholesome and powerful empty vessel the universe is calling for, a channel for beauty, a channel for the divine, with the sole intention of realising the radical alignment that is our birthright, radiating from within so we can contribute something greater, our tribe, our purpose.
I have been well-versed in the linguistics and practice of emotional intimacy… or emotional intelligence for a while now and have often said, there are no ‘good’ or ‘bad’, no ‘negative’ or ‘positive’ but thinking makes it so. I have often read that by neglecting, suppressing or disconnecting from uncomfortable emotions that we cutting from the wholeness of our being. However, here I find myself, after a week of shifts, ironing out subtle kinks, stepping further into alignment, jolted by an intense wave of sadness, a feeling a grief, a fear of the uncertainty, a fear of failure, self-doubt...
It is in these times, I believe, that the universe is cracking us open, inviting us to integrate, practice and embody the lessons learnt, much like learning a new skill-set opens the mind, which we then proceed to demonstrating in the real world. It is an opportunity for expanding our abundance and joy threshold, an opportunity for integration on a cellular level, an opportunity to be embodied examples of our truth. Being willing to expand our potential means it only gets better and better, we become more and more aligned. This is a shedding of sorts so that we can take what resonates and leave the rest behind.
As uncomfortable as these feelings of grief and sadness first felt… the contracting and tightening of my gut, a heavy heart, tears streaming down… We have two choices; to resist or to fully surrender, ‘okay universe, I welcome these emotions to channel through me so that I can release, expand, shed and grow, so I can learn the lesson you are showing me'… through radical acceptance and appreciation, you have shifted from the lens of suffering (suppressing the uncomfortable, the unknown, rejecting your wholeness) to the lens of beauty (appreciating the beauty and gift of all emotions, the depth of human experience).
Hey Cacao Lovers,
This is a bit of a long post but I was just thinking about two recent incidents where I have witnessed someone close to me expressing love in a way that is not in alignment with their intention, rather it is creating separation.
Ask yourself, When I am expressing love to those I care most about, is it an accurate reflection of my intention? In other words, if your intention is one of unconditional love, nurturing, loving-kindness and support, is this strongly reflected in your actions?
The reason I ask this is because the situation and dynamic I have witnessed is one that represents mis-alignment between ones intention and expression of love. So the example I am referring to in my own life is between my Grandma and my Mum. My mum and her partner have been growing, expanding and building their homewares business exponentially the last year and as any small business owner who is connected to a powerful vision and deep WHY knows that this can mean working long hours and often going to extremes for a period of time for the long term reward and fulfilment!
During this time and especially recently my Grandma has been making some dinners for my Mum, but rather then an act of selfless giving, it is exchanged by criticising my mum, "You are working too hard', commenting on her appearance, 'You are too skinny', and attacking her through a communication style that is unconsciously (for my Grandma) shaming her being and projecting her values onto my Mum. The important thing for ALL of us to remember is that we are sovereign beings, on our own journeys, and nobody has the right to project their values onto us, to interrupt our journey or shame us for our being.
Now, if this scenario has played out in your own life, If you were to ask that person, 'How do you express love to those who are most important to you?', I highly doubt their response would be 'Oh, I shame them, guilt trip them, try to change them, project my values onto them and criticise them', because that likely not their intention, yet why are they doing just that? They would probably respond with 'I want the best for them, for them to be happy, healthy, feel supported, loved unconditionally, accepted with lovingkindness' etc.
Okay, well that is great if that is your intention, but how does your love language and expression manifest in your expression? Is there a gap of mis-alignment between your intention and action? Its paradoxical to say the least that when are loved ones need our support the most, our love, patience and acceptance, we can choose to criticise and attack them. So, instead, be mindful of your intention, get clear on your intention, and ask yourself, 'If my intention is to offer support, unconditional love, acceptance and compassion, How best can I express this love to that person?'.
What I have found most effective is taking some time to connect with that individual, go into heart space and genuinely express the support you are offering. It might even be appropriate to talk in 'parts' language and say, 'Look, a part of me can see you pushing yourself and that part of me feels uncomfortable... But what I recognise is that another, deeper part of me wants you to know that I am here to support you, I am here for you no matter what and I really admire what you are creating, I love you'. This is an expression of unconditional love, is this wanting of my happiness equal to my wanting of my loved ones happiness, and allowing them to have whatever experience they are having with non-judgement.
Which expression do you think would be more in alignment with the intention of loving kindness?
So alignment is key... If you intention is to express unconditional love, support, acceptance, and kindness but you outwardly attack, criticise, project and shame that individual - this is clearly mis-alignment. This might sound drastic but if we are truly mindful and honest with ourselves, a situation like this and this mis-alignment has probably played out in subtle or obvious ways, especially with those closest to us.
Last example, as a receiver, it is often those small acts of selfless giving that touch our hearts and bring us closer to our loved ones. If I am working hard, tired and exhausted and a loved one makes me a home cooked healthy dinner and says 'Are you happy now? I made this for you, stop working so hard'... I would probably not feel too happy because I feel guilty receiving. But if they said, 'Hey I am here to support you and I really wanted to make you this meal :)', I would say 'Thankyou, that is so thoughtful'.
It comes down to energy exchange :)
Much love xxxxx
As children, we are often told "Don't do this... Don't drop your food on the table....Don't go over there.... You can't do this or that". However, as you have probably witnessed with your own attempts at behavioural change, it is often when we tell ourselves that we cannot do something or don't have too much of something that we end up doing exactly the thing we told ourselves not to. Then what happens? We punish ourselves, just like we were punished as children.
The reason is, when we are told 'don't eat another bliss ball' a lot of the time we only register and direct our focus to the content of 'eat another bliss ball'. I can think of two examples of this... The other day one of the Woman I work with walked up to a customer and said 'Let me take those items from you, I don't want you to drop them', so she took them off the customer and what happened? She dropped them straight away! In my own experience, I know if I have made a big batch of raw vegan deliciousness (bliss balls, slices e.t.c.) and placed them in the fridge, when I go into the kitchen I have said to myself, 'Don't have another bliss ball' or 'You can't have another one'... and what happens? I walk straight to the fridge, have one and then stand there complexed as to 'What just happened?' haha.
Not only are we doing what we tell ourselves not to, we then punish ourselves and use further disempowering language, 'I am bad', 'What did I do that for', 'I am stupid', 'I am unworthy'... just like some of us experienced when we were children. Studies have shown that punishment is actually a very ineffective form of behavioural change and actually reinforces negative cyclic patterns, the more we use disempowering/restrictive language such as 'don't, can't, and the more we punish ourselves, 'I am bad, I am unworthy', the more we are reinforcing a pattern that will present itself again and again.
We are far better off empowering ourselves, celebrating our wins, practicing self-compassion, inclusion over exclusion and reinforcing behaviours that empower us and elevate us to be the best versions of ourselves. In my experience, and struggle with disordered eating, in order to distance myself from that little negative voice that enters my mind, instead of saying 'Don't listen to that voice, don't do this, you can't do that'... I know say 'Do listen to your eating disorder and then Do the opposite!'.
This also applies in the language of manifestation, instead of saying what you don't want, say and visualise and deeply feel what it is that you DO want and place your intention and attention on exactly that!
Much love xx
Em Bronte Anderson