You are either experiencing life through the lens of suffering or the lens of beauty.
Suffering: stress, overthinking, victim mentality, fixed mindset.
Beauty: gratitude, mindfulness, growth mindset, empowered, flow.
Decide. It may sound simple, but think about all the changes you made in your life. They also started with a decision to change. I believe one of the most important decisions when deciding to upgrade your perception of the world around you is deciding to spend time with people who ALSO choose to see the world through the lens of beauty, not suffering.
For some of us, it is the fear of uncertainty that guides our decisions, eventually limits us and creates suffering. While it is true that you can't control what is going to happen to your loved ones, whether you get laid off, whether or not people like you, the country you are born in, who you parents are, what happened in your past... YOU CAN control how you choose the meaning you assign to these parts of life.
The most important decision you can make is to end suffering, practice non-attachment and adopt a growth mindset. It doesn't mean that you won't feel the more uncomfortable emotions of sadness, grief, anger, shame, jealousy...
It DOES mean that you will no longer be attached to the outcomes, release expectations, become more resilient and create space between you and your emotions, becoming an observer, becoming intimate with all the parts of you and choosing what meaning you assign to those parts, without getting lost in your mental story and internal dialogue. From this spaciousness, you may find you have access to deeper love, compassion and understanding of yourself and others, so you can shift the focus solely on yourself, and your "story" and give beyond yourself.
Suffering comes from excessive NARROW focus on self -> shift the focus: BROAD and expansive focus on the beauty in the ordinary.
I'm sure we have all heard this before, and I will say it again, gratitude is a magnet for miracles. From a space of gratitude, we are more receptive to our internal guidance, rather than fight/flight response. It is this true, calm, inner guidance that we can rely on.
Next time you find yourself needing to make an important decision and you feel the flight/fight response kick into gear, take some deep breaths, think of 3 things you are grateful for and ask yourself...
In this situation/decision/challenge I am presented with..
ALL I need to do is______
ALL I need to focus on is ______
ALL I need to remember is _______
ALL I need to believe is ______
See what answers spontaneously arise.
If your mind is still focusing on all the things that could possibly go wrong, all the what-ifs, ask yourself; "Is this true?".
Say silently to yourself, "I choose to focus on only what is true".
Knowing harmonious thoughts (such as positive thinking) are closer to absolute truth than unharmonious thoughts (such as negative thinking/catastrophising), then it only makes sense to choose to see the world through the lens of beauty if we are committed to the path of what is true.