Hey beautiful person...
I wanted to write this message from my heart to yours, from my highest self to your highest self...
You are so worthy of love, first and foremost from your self; always. You are worthy of love from all sources in all directions, at all times, in all states, in all dimensions, unconditionally; all-ways.
When things might seem tough, its okay... its okay to allow space to breathe. Its okay to allow space to be. Its okay not to know. Its okay just to sit and allow whatever feelings arise, to arise.
Allow yourself permission to experience all that you are in your wholeness, welcoming all emotions and feelings, including the discomfort. Lean into the discomfort.
In these times, if you feel like 'distracting' yourself to dissociate from the truth of who you are in the present moment, realise that those distractions may be taking away from the beauty of the lesson, the beauty of growth, the beauty of a download. Within the silence, new insights arise. Face the space as you continue to evolve into the divine sovereign being that you are. It is within this space that your love for yourself deepens.
Just like when you loved ones are struggling and ask you to hold space and love for them, you too can hold that space for your self and be there for yourself. In those times of need, listening in non-judgement and radical acceptance of whatever arises, just like you would for those you love unconditionally. Make the commitment to be there for yourself. Make the commitment to love yourself, unconditionally, no matter what.
In these times, call upon the purest form of guidance, the heart, the universe, pure source. Remember, when you welcome all that you are, spaciousness provides and discomfort subsides.
Lastly, here is a technique that will assist in reconnecting you with your heart to allow higher guidance to flow through you...
Imagine there is a spiral staircase going down from the middle of your brain to the middle of your chest.
Go down the stairs. Step off the stairs and slowly turn to your left. There is a door there that goes into your heart.
Open the door and step inside your heart; remember to close the door behind you.
For a moment, see, sense and feel the love, compassion, beauty and acceptance emanating from your heart.
Feel the power of your heart. Feel appreciation for all that your heart has guided you to do.
Allow this feeling to permeate through the entirety of your body.
Be here now, in this all-encompassing feeling of the love frequency. Send love deep within your self.
Feel the love spiralling from the top of your head, down your throat, through the chest and the heart, sternum and solar plexus, circulating down the spine, the ribs, showering your gut with love, the genital's, your thighs, knees, calves and ankles, and gliding through each of your toes, then spiralling up and down your body, radiating from within.
Hold yourself in this space and remember the love that you are. Then move your attention to your breath.
1. Your beliefs
2. Your attitude
3. Your thoughts
4. Your perspective
5. How honest you are
6. Who your friends are
7. What books you read
8. How often you exercise
9. The type of food you eat
10. How many risks you take
11. How you interpret situations
12. How kind you are to others
13. How kind you are to yourself
14. How often you say 'I love you'
15. How often you say 'Thank you'
16. How you express your feelings
17. Whether or not you ask for help
18. How often you practice gratitude
19. How many times you smile today
20. The amount of effort you put forth
21. How you spend/invest your money
22. How much time you spend worrying
23. How often you think about your past
24. Whether or not you judge other people
25. Whether or not you try again after a setback
26. How much you appreciate the things you have
27. Whether or not you choose to raise your vibration
28. Whether or not you choose to transform your frequency
My personal experience;
I spent the last week in Waiheke Island, New Zealand, in a magical oasis, surrounded by lush greenery, vast ocean and vineyards. However, while my external natural environment could be equated to bliss, I stepped into a relational dynamic that brought up feelings of separation.
Below I share my journal entry that dives into the importance of taking control of managing your internal environment, cleaning it out and raising your vibration, so that your internal environment shapes your external environment.
"....Sometimes you find yourself in an external environment that you would consider your ideal... surrounded in beautiful nature, in the sunshine, mountains, walking... absolute bliss.
This past week I was so looking forward to coming here to see my Dad and have a beautiful relax. I arrived about two days ago and I was stunted, it was not what I had imagined. Rather, I stepped into a dynamic that felt highly uncomfortable, caused a lot of separation, awkwardness and misalignment with someone there.
Yes, there has been a history of separation, though nothing is said or done, its an energetic blockage between us. The first two days I really let it get to me, it shaped the lens in which I viewed this trip and furthermore, shaped the lens in which I viewed the world and my place in it. I took it personally and was deeply hurt. The blockage between us made me want to separate and distance myself, and it made me want to escape this environment, asking myself, 'Why the fuck am I here?'.
When I recognised how these feelings, I had chose to take on had started to transform my biochemistry in a way that was not from a loving, compassionate and accepting place, I made the choice, 'I don't want to be feeling like this', 'I don't want to be experiencing negative charges towards this person', 'I don't want to be feeling in energetic bondage and like I can't express my true authentic self'.
Furthermore, I don't want to contribute to the other person feeling the same way, I want them to be able to feel safe and free to express themselves, just as much as I want to.
In this moment, I have the power to transform, moment to moment. I have the power to transform and manage my internal world and clean it out, so it is no longer heavy, in pain, slumped, sad and drained.
Okay, so I have a few options,
1. Choose to remain stagnate and in separation.
2. Raise my vibration and take it as an opportunity for expansion so that I was no longer matching the frequency I was attracting.
3. Have a conversation with that person and express to them how I felt.
Fast-track forward; I picked the option I knew I could control, the option that would empower me, grow me and propel me forward. I made the conscious choice, conscious in the sense that I became aware of the patterns that had been formed and chose to delete the cycle of reactivity, separation and isolation from the subconscious/unconscious which had been reinforced over years.
I chose to shed, open and expand into a different vibration, one that allowed for a safe space to be created for the both of us, creating a presence that is allowing both of us to feel comfortable and safe.
So I made this promise to myself, and in the morning, energetically everything has shifted. Energetically she responded and the blockage was lifted to discover a new found freedom, relaxed space and surrendering to what is. The key here is that this was an internal choice, a choice I made to manage and shift my internal space, not the control and 'fix' my external space or try to change the other. It was a choice that came from the heart, from spirit, not from the head.
Magically, as we all know, 'Shape your internal world, shape your external world'.
This choice is one we can all make in any moment, in all moments, by tapping into the highest vibration and expression of ourselves possible. That is, one of love, compassion, openness, safety, freedom, beauty, gratitude, joy, play and acceptance. "
Later that week I looked up an energy update for that period which was very telling and had a little chuckle to myself :)
"We have choices — to either remain stagnant in the duality of lower frequencies, or make decisions that support our universal evolution, even if it means choosing a challenge or jumping into the vast unknown."
"The Square/90 angle reflects friction and tension. From an evolutionary viewpoint, this a place in our awareness where we are forced to make changes in our lives based on the friction and tension we are experiencing."
"The energy of Thursday’s Full Moon and this current lunar cycle are deeply connected our process of de-conditioning and learning to see ourselves in a new way."
"We slowly begin this transition from separation to real integration, we are asked many questions that have never been asked before."
Lately I have been harnessing my NET (no extra time) to fill my mind with new insights, lessons, reflections + knowledge through podcasts, e-books, youtube videos... This may be while you are at the gym, making a meal, driving, walking to work, lying in bed, catching public transport....
This morning, as I was taking my dog for a walk I was about to put on a Tony Robbins podcast but discovered my phone was out of battery....
In that moment, a quote from Mas Sajady entered my mind, "Clarify your mind, let go of all the past knowledge, and be it."
This passage grounded me in difference between learning information and being it. While new knowledge allowing for further growth, awareness, and realisations, it is the integration and embodiment of this that allows for the transformative cellular shifts to take place. If your intention is to facilitate transformation in others, you must lead by example.
So, instead of filling my mind with new knowledge, I made a choice to ground myself in the truth of my being. To align with my true nature in a series of walking affirmations. In the past, I personally have not been attracted to practicing affirmations...
Who we are, How we show up each day and the deeper WHY behind this choice of being dictates how we experience life.
Next time you go for a walk, make it your intention to practice walking affirmations, don't think to hard, just allow the affirmations to make themselves known and be present, making these affirmations part of your being and repeat them out-loud if you can or silently until you end your walk;
This is what came up for me this morning;
I AM WHOLESOME
I AM LOVING
I AM GIVING
I AM UNIQUE
I AM ENOUGH
"TO BE LIST"
If you are already in the practice of affirmations, try this practice from Gerald Jampolsky and Diane Cirincione-Jampolsky, of Attitudinal Healing.
Each morning start your day with a “To Be” list instead of a “To Do” list. This practice is focused on celebrating our “being,” the essence of love that is our true identity and our true natural state of happiness.
This serves to remind us of our core self which is so often hidden from our daily awareness by the bus-i-ness of our daily doings and thoughts.
Today my being is:
"Start living the knowledge that you study, so you are that knowledge."- Mas Sajady
Let me know if you try these practices and your experience :)
SUFFERING ——> GRATITUDE ———> BEAUTY