I am curious,
Why do we need to be complimented on our bodies to be deemed worthy?
Are our bodies not already incredible??!!
Are our bodies not incredible through our ability to experience the subtleties of sensation?
Through our ability to move and exercise?
Through our ability to hold ourselves, hold another?
To transfer energy from and to another human being!
Are our bodies not enough without a gap between our thighs, a butt that catches the eyes, a stomach that doesn't bloat, skin that is flawless?
Are our bodies not enough to have a stomach + gut that assimilates nutrients + feeds life into our being without having abs?!
Are our physical features not enough to be able to witness the beauty of life, to see ourselves, as we are?
Are our bodies only enough when we internalize societal beauty standards + dedicate a large portion of mental energy/time trying to attain this?!
Are our bodies not enough as they are?
I would like to think they are.
I would like to think I can love my body, celebrate it, its beauty, its strength, its miracle nature without needing another to validate this.
Our bodies are AMAZING! We don't need external validation to realize that. Look how we are created!
Instead of striving to receive external validation, let us tune in with our bodies to embrace life + reconnect with our bodies innate intelligence.
Move in a way you desire to move,
Love in a way you desire to love,
Touch in a way you desire to touch,
Receive in a way you are open to receiving,
Feel, connect, deepen that bond, hold space and be in your entirety.
Part of living is journeying back to our wholeness.
Choose to love that journey <3
So I was just watching an interview with Mama Gena, author of PUSSY: a reclamation and she shared that every time she holds a meeting or connects with her loved ones they start off the conversation with a BOAST, a GRATITUDE and a HOPE. When I heard this, I loved it straight away. While I already practice my daily gratitudes, write down my values & the 7 strategic action steps... I definitely had not been including a 'boast' or a 'hope'.
Many of us have been conditioned to shy away from recognising our accomplishments & success (whatever that looks like for you). But in the midst of endless creations and outpouring of our energy into multiple sources + activities, it is SO important to stop, express love to ourselves + share a recent win or HELL YEAAAH with a loved one, and encourage the same from them. I did this practice with my mum this morning & I encourage you all to do the same.
I thought I would share my 3 here :)
I boast that I have taken small steps every day this week to branch out with my food & acknowledged my fears but taken action anyway - and I am responsible for this! :)
I am grateful for having a beautiful relationship with my mum, loving my work & that I am willing to embody the love and energy I wish to see in the world. I am grateful for everything I attract as a result of how I show up.
My hope is that everyone, no matter their circumstances take the time to reflect on their potential, recognise their deeper purpose and self worth and be open to connecting with others in a way that is deeply nourishing so that humanity can come together to continually raise the current world consciousness & connect with pure source <3
What are yours?
I wanted to share a simple insight that came up for me this morning... it was one of those moments where you recognise you have 'known' a concept intellectually but it remains 'knowledge' until it finally clicks and integrates.
This morning I did a Mas Sajady medi healing and it was exploring both the dark realms and light realms and how one of the big misconceptions is about moving away from the dark into the light. When actually as we become more spiritual advanced, our journey teaches us how to master both realms.
Anyways, it made me think about the concept of separation as it relates to an issue in my life, specifically around nutrition and nourishment. Having struggled with an eating disorder for many years this concept of separation was very embedded in my mindset, 'good foods' 'bad foods', 'good day: perfect eating' 'I am a good person: perfect eating', 'I am a bad person: less then perfect eating'. The actual content of what made up the good and bad was quite irrational, but it didn't matter, what mattered was that I was viewing nourishment, and health through a lens of separation, judgement and lack of acceptance.
So, until we cease to view the world, ourselves and our experiences through the lens of separation, 'good/bad', 'right/wrong', the universe will continuously present us with experiences/patterns where we can either continue to choose separation OR we can choose to learn the lesson and instead choose radical acceptance. I realised this, this morning when I had too many home made protein balls and it triggered mental looping and disordered mindset around food :P & all of a sudden it was 'I am bad', 'Today is no longer a good day', 'That food was bad'. e.t.c.
When we decide to choose Radical acceptance and love over judgement and ridicule, over time it will cease to trigger these behaviours and self-sabotage. When we recognise there is no 'good' 'bad 'right 'wrong'... there is only a CHOICE! All we have to ask ourselves in those moments is, 'Is this choice TRUE for me?' 'Is this choice in ALIGNMENT with my values and desires?' Then our heart will show us the answer rather then the analytical mind.
As children, we are often told "Don't do this... Don't drop your food on the table....Don't go over there.... You can't do this or that". However, as you have probably witnessed with your own attempts at behavioural change, it is often when we tell ourselves that we cannot do something or don't have too much of something that we end up doing exactly the thing we told ourselves not to. Then what happens? We punish ourselves, just like we were punished as children.
The reason is, when we are told 'don't eat another bliss ball' a lot of the time we only register and direct our focus to the content of 'eat another bliss ball'. I can think of two examples of this... The other day one of the Woman I work with walked up to a customer and said 'Let me take those items from you, I don't want you to drop them', so she took them off the customer and what happened? She dropped them straight away! In my own experience, I know if I have made a big batch of raw vegan deliciousness (bliss balls, slices e.t.c.) and placed them in the fridge, when I go into the kitchen I have said to myself, 'Don't have another bliss ball' or 'You can't have another one'... and what happens? I walk straight to the fridge, have one and then stand there complexed as to 'What just happened?' haha.
Not only are we doing what we tell ourselves not to, we then punish ourselves and use further disempowering language, 'I am bad', 'What did I do that for', 'I am stupid', 'I am unworthy'... just like some of us experienced when we were children. Studies have shown that punishment is actually a very ineffective form of behavioural change and actually reinforces negative cyclic patterns, the more we use disempowering/restrictive language such as 'don't, can't, and the more we punish ourselves, 'I am bad, I am unworthy', the more we are reinforcing a pattern that will present itself again and again.
We are far better off empowering ourselves, celebrating our wins, practicing self-compassion, inclusion over exclusion and reinforcing behaviours that empower us and elevate us to be the best versions of ourselves. In my experience, and struggle with disordered eating, in order to distance myself from that little negative voice that enters my mind, instead of saying 'Don't listen to that voice, don't do this, you can't do that'... I know say 'Do listen to your eating disorder and then Do the opposite!'.
This also applies in the language of manifestation, instead of saying what you don't want, say and visualise and deeply feel what it is that you DO want and place your intention and attention on exactly that!
Much love xx
SUFFERING ——> GRATITUDE ———> BEAUTY